Monday, May 5, 2008
Life Pins: Boys to Men & Work, Oh Boy!
Boy, has my boy shown all the traits of masculine identity in the last year, ever increasing this spring.
James Dobson in Bringing Up Boys says this, "At about three to five years of age, however, a lad gradually pulls away from his mom and sisters in an effort to formulate a masculine identity." (2001, pg.58).
Of course he and his daddy spent lots of time wrestling too. "Pile drivers", "body slams", and "Patrick sandwiches" are all catch words to this "boys" game. Patrick says in his best WWF voice, "Momma! Wrestling is just for boys, not garils." I couldn't agree more.
When we had a cleanup day recently at his school he really really wanted to go to the dump with the guys. When they left, he opted to show Mommy his classroom, and play a little baseball with mom and an older boy. He kept asking when they would return, and was so happy to see his daddy return in the truck, and we learned there was no room anyway for his car seat. Ah, yes, I love watching it happen, this gender identity.
So, tonight we spent hours enjoying the warm weather (not to mention black flies) while Patrick dug dirt, put it in a pail, dumped it on the lawn, spread it out, and repeated it 50 times at least in an effort to built a road. He dug, dug, and dug, dumped, spread, dug, dug, dug, dump, spread.... It was wonderful seeing him so content playing outside, "working" he said.